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How well do you know the rating of your Emotional Intelligence?

3/3/2021

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Did you know that your success is dependent more on your Emotional Intelligence than on your IQ?


Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that we know 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence.


Only 1% of the population is considered top performers. 
Can it be that it is emotional intelligence that we need to focus on more than IQ?


There have been a lot of studies that reveal EQ to be the source of success for individuals across a wide spectrum of roles, organizations and industries since 1996 when Dan Goleman released his book “Emotional Intelligence". 
Not to confuse EQ - Emotional Quotient that measures capacity  with EI - Emotional Intelligence that indicates the application of EQ. 



EI as the ability to:
  • Recognize, understand, and manage our own emotions, and
  • Recognize, understand, and influence the emotions of others.
People with high EI know that emotions can drive our behaviour and impact people (positively and negatively), and they know how to manage those emotions (their own and others'), especially when they are under pressure.


Emotional intelligence is essential in success because people do business with those they trust.


There are five components of emotional intelligence that allow people to recognize, connect with, and learn from their own and other people's mental states:
  •     Self-awareness: Knowledge of our own emotional state and how we are showing up in the world.
  •     Self-regulation: The ability to control how we are showing up, and to keep our emotions in check when situations call for control.
  •     Motivation (defined as "a passion for work that goes beyond money and status"): What moves us to do our best?
  •     Empathy for others: Feeling for others when they are experiencing emotions (positive or negative) as a result of their own life experiences.
  •     Social skills: Proficiency in managing relationships and building networks with communication.


It's great to know about Emotional Intelligence, but as we have all learned, execution is everything.
Are you ready to learn more about Emotional Intelligence?
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Companies today are increasingly looking through the lens of emotional intelligence when hiring, promoting and developing their employees.

Are you the 1% who performs successfully in your field and earns a higher annual salary?
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Here are the 10 characteristics of high Emotional Intelligence?
1. Open-Minded.
Taking an honest perspective about what you know and accepting what you don’t know allows opportunities for change and new experiences. This may be a sign of EQ, but it also broadens opportunities that feed into people’s IQ.
2. Articulate Feelings.
It’s not enough to know your emotions. People with high EQ have the ability to describe them to others. This communication is key when working with others that are still learning their emotional triggers and how to handle them.
3. Empathetic.
Not only do high EQ people understand and communicate their own feelings but people with high EQ’s actively seek to understand others’ emotions which in turn reduces drama caused by misunderstandings.
4. Observant.
High EQ people are genuinely curious about everyone. They are constantly fascinated by people’s behaviours and reactions. This further feeds into the empathy noted above.
5. Leads by Example
No one enjoys a lecture and people with EQ know it! Instead of telling employees what to do, an EQ employee gains influence with others because they lead by example at every level in the organization.
6. Active Listener.
There is a difference between hearing and listening. Emotionally intelligent people are constantly aware of this and when an opportunity presents itself they make efforts to actively listen and comprehend what someone is telling them.
7.Personally Motivated.
Personal development is a priority for a person with high EQ. They enjoy the process of growing themselves and know that this gives them an edge when overcoming obstacles.
8. Helpful
People with high EQ’s help others. They invest time and effort in to assist people in any way from helping a coworker with a project to holding doors for strangers.
9. Balanced
There is increasing awareness of the need for work-life balance in today’s workplace culture. Because high EQ people are very self-aware they can easily identify what they need to attain that balance.
10. Transparent
Honesty is highly valued by high EQ individuals. Whether it is high stakes ethics or being completely honest with the progression of a project, you can count on a high EQ person to tell the truth.




Why is it important to learn and acquire practices that builds and nourishes ones’ Emotional Intelligence? 


Here are some statistics I have found: 


Numbers that illustrate the impact EQ has on organizations:
  • EQ is responsible for 58% of professional success, regardless of job category — Of all the workplace skills a person can possess, none is more impactful than EQ. It is the single strongest predictor of performance, and it serves as the foundation for a variety of other critical skills like time management, communication and customer service.
  • 90% of top performers score high on emotional intelligence; just 20% of low performers score high on emotional intelligence — The more emotionally intelligent you are, the more likely you will be a top performer. Given this statistic, it is extremely unlikely that anyone with a low EQ score will become a top performer. Unless, of course, they work hard to develop their emotional intelligence.
  • People with high emotional intelligence earn, on average, $29000 or more annually than those who score low on EQ — People who perform well get paid more, and there is a direct correlation between salary and emotional intelligence. For each percentage-point increase in EQ, a person can add $1300 to their annual salary. This is true across industries, regions and levels.
  • A 40-year study of PhDs at UC Berkeley found that EQ was 400% more powerful than IQ when predicting who would have success in their field — Even the smartest of the smart benefit significantly by high levels of emotional intelligence.
  • PepsiCo performed an internal study revealing that managers with highly developed EQ skills outperformed yearly revenue targets by 15-20%; managers with low emotional intelligence underperformed at the same rate — Emotionally intelligent leaders possess qualities that drive their teams to exceed expectations on a consistent basis. Leaders who lack emotional intelligence, on the other hand, underperform just as consistently.
The impact EQ has within organizations is nothing short of dramatic. And these numbers only begin to scratch the surface of what we know about emotional intelligence and its benefits.
But the most important fact about EQ is that it can be improved and developed. While a person’s IQ generally remains static throughout life, an individual’s EQ can be enhanced. This is good news for leaders who want to sharpen their emotional intelligence to gain a competitive edge and perform exceptionally well. It also means that leaders can employ tactics to make their team members more emotionally intelligent, as well.


I hope you found this information educational and you are ready to take the next step of action: 
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Every day is a gift

9/18/2014

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Oh Savasana (insert sigh)…I spend the whole practice in the 'present moment' only to be flooded with thoughts in savasana.
“It goes by so fast”. 
One thought turns into a story in a few minutes of time. When you are young, 45 years seems like an eternity. But after you have lived it, you realize it is but a moment. We believe we have forever, but soon we realize it isn’t so. Every moment and every breath is a gift. If you look up the word ‘gift' in the dictionary this is what you will find: 'a thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present’. Present also means according to the dictionary, 'existing or occurring now’. 

 Live in the present moment and each day becomes a great gift.

Now this we all heard many times but it is still hard to practice so maybe if we remind ourselves just one more time. To live in the moment means to not to judge our lives, not to focus on the past or the future but experience each moment with gratitude and purpose, to live life fully. To choose contentment and happiness. Appreciate every moment being aware of what a gift it is to live and most importantly starting and ending each day with a ritual. A preyer, meditation, expressing gratitude and thankfulness, recounting all good things from the day.

Some people live their lives but most simply plan their lives. Getting through things. On their way to what they think will bring them happiness. You know the ones that say ‘when I find a partner, when I get married, when I have kids, when I get a house, when I get a better paying job then I’ll be happy’. You know who you are. We all do or have done it before. Time to stop planning and start living. Take chances. Listen to your heart.

Each time I find myself in a moment of joy I remind myself to practice breathing them in. One never knows how many more moments like this will come. The one right now is the one I’m living for and grateful for. The present moment is the only moment.
We have no power over the past or the future, non at all. Focusing on the past, especially on regret, has the power only to rob the present moment of its happiness. We have 40,000-60,000 thoughts a day and if we allow them to live in the past or the future, by regretting things or thinking about where we want to be will keep us from living life now. Use your thoughts wisely. We have the power to train our minds. Happy people know that we are more in control of our minds then we realize. The greatest practice for training our minds to be present is meditation. When you don’t have time to sit in silence try enjoying your task at hand. Forget multitasking! Doing the dishes, cleaning, walking the dog can be meditation as long as you’re being mindful and joyful doing it. Not just every day but every moment of every day is a gift. A present.

Namaste my friends

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Love is a choice

9/16/2014

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                        Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.
                                                                -Leo Buscaglia


Can I be happy if I’m truly loved? On the other hand can I be happy if I love with all my heart ? 
Love is likely both the greatest source of happiness and the greatest source of regret. It is not just the receiving of love that matters but one of the secrets to happiness and purpose is also to be a loving a person, to become love.

Love is a choice.

It is essential to understand the difference between the emotion of love and the choice to love. There is the love of food, activities even another person but that is referring to the emotion of feeling love. The secret to a happy and purposeful life is to choose to be a loving person, to become love. To do that first we must  love ourselves and choose to see ourselves worthy as spiritually healthy human beings. Second, we choose to act with love towards the people around us. And yes that includes our family and friends. It is a choice to act lovingly towards others. At the end its about seeing the big picture, that love matters more then things. And finally we must choose love in our connections, communications and dealings with others. Choosing to see others with kindness. It is in all of us to change the negative messages to positive, to affirm and uplift one another.  Do good if you can but make sure not to harm, hurt or cause pain. We can choose to see the larger picture.

Namaste my friends
LUVS to all

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More secrets

9/15/2014

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If there is a first secret there must be more. What do we all fear the most? The one possible thing at the end when we look back at our lives and wish that we have done things differently, that we had no regrets. Non of us want to say “I wish I had done…” but rather say “I have tried”. 
At the end of our lives we will not regret the risks that we took even if they did not work out the way we hoped. No one regrets having tried something and failed, yet most of us don’t take enough risks. Often what we call “mistakes” turn out to be the greatest moments of learning. If there is no guarantee to success in our lives, since every attempt at anything might be a possible failure then why even bother trying right? Wrong! If we love there is always the risk of rejection. If we follow a dream, there is always the possibility of falling short. We cannot guarantee success, but we can guarantee failure merely by choosing not to try at all.
So if we want to find true happiness and purpose in life we must embrace the second secret: Leave no regrets.

Namaste my friends
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Finding true meaning in life

9/14/2014

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The thought came to my mind in my very first savasana, why am I here?
Not in the sense of why am I lying on this smelly carpeted floor with a bunch of sweaty people in the same room but contemplating the reason of my existence on Earth. What is the purpose of my being?

When you ask people what they want the most, the number one answer is "to find happiness". Every human being wants to experience joy and a deep sense of contentment. We want to know that we have lived fully and experienced what it means to be a human being. Joseph Campbell put in this way: "I think that what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive."

I think that happiness is  not enough for us as human beings. I believe we also want to find meaning. If happiness is about the day-to-day experience of contentment and joy, meaning is about the sense that one's life has purpose. We want, most of all, to know that it mattered we were here, to find a reason for being alive. I believe that we become wise by listening to other's stories. I have heard it said that "wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk." Knowing the reason tho is not enough. We all know things that we don't put into practice: exercise is good for us, eating a balanced diet can lead to good health, smoking is bad for our health, relationships matter more then things, and so forth. Yet, many of us live life not practicing the "wisdom" we already have.

So what gives us meaning and purpose and how do we practice it?
I believe there is one such secret, and it is the first thing we must discover about life if we are to live wisely.
You have to follow your heart, you have to be true to your own self, your have to know who you are and why you are here and you have to know what matters to you. What separates those who live well and die happy from most of us is that they continually ask themselves whether they are living the life they want to live and following their heart toward the answer. The first secret is to be true to you, to your self and live with intention.


Namaste my friends






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